Tips for Dating with Herpes If you are infected with genital herpes, dating can be a scary event. It is normal for people to experience self-doubt and insecurity when faced with the challenge of forming new intimate relationships. While this is very normal and understandable, there are simple steps that you can take to reduce dating anxiety. Honesty really is the best policy. If you have been diagnosed with Herpes Simplex 2, or genital herpes, you must tell anyone that you are going to have sex with. There are no exceptions to this rule. HSV 2 can be spread even if you use a condom. If your partner is not infected, they need to understand what the risks are. Notice that the sentence says you must tell “anyone that you are going to have sex with”. This means that unless your relationship has developed t the point that sex is imminent, you don’t have to tell if you don’t want to. Depending on your own personal acceptance level, you can decide at what point is the right moment to reveal this information. Improve your chances by seeking like-minded individuals. It is worth mentioning that they type of companion that you are looking for can go a long way towards them accepting you. Look for someone who is not quick to judge and stereotype. Openness is a great quality, even if you don’t have genital herpes. Don’t share the wealth. If you are not under a physicians care to help you manage outbreaks, then get there. While there is no cure, many treatments are available to reduce the frequency and severity of genital herpes outbreaks. Work with your doctor to know when you are most likely to be contagious and follow your treatment regimen. If it doesn’t appear to be working for you, discuss other options. Consider dating sites that allow you to connect with others who also have genital herpes. This can take the pressure off you. You don’t have to worry about breaking the news, transmission of your herpes, and dealing with rejection. This can be a win — win situation for everyone involved. An example of one such site is Love, H Style. It provides you with multiple formats for meeting a compatible partner. They are often free and it is easy to register. Regardless of the method that you choose for dating when you have genital herpes, you should pat yourself on the back. Getting out there is a positive step in accepting your infection. After all, Herpes is just that… an infection. It does not have to rule your life, nor does it make a statement about the quality of person that you are.
When dating with genital herpes, the most important thing is to be open and honest about the condition. Learn how to tell someone about genital herpes at the right time with help from a certified life and dating coach in this free video on dating. Expert: Donna Barnes Contact: www.donnabarnes.com Bio: Donna Barnes is a professional life coach, relationship expert, television host, author, columnist and producer, based in New York City. Filmmaker: Paul Muller